Once you defend yourself around an aloof they have taken your power. Poor me types are no walk in the park either. Many of their behaviours are not enacted consciously but deep down there is a comfort from their misery. They feel everyone’s pain and attach to it and make it their own.They use language like ‘I gave you everything’ – hence the giving is conditional to befriending them.They don’t trust and if rejected they feel hard done by.Poor me’s wallow in self pity, they take the joy out of everything.They manipulate by being nice and control you by attempting to keep you caught in their misery.Everything is their fault, they blame themselves for everything.They love to tell others of their suffering, as nobody suffers more or as much as a poor me.They don’t like to be around joy – they resent others happiness.When in engaging in poor me behaviour the major giveaways are: The Poor me types love misery, they love to suffer and they want everyone else to feel sorry for them. They feel everything and find it difficult to discern what emotions are theirs and what belong to others.
Poor me types blame themselves for everything, aloofs judge and blame everyone but themselves.Poor me types want the world to know how much they are suffering, aloofs don’t want to share anything.How do poor me and aloof interact? In truth very badly.
